This section of my site is for men who’ve had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences as boys and those who care about them. This is an area I’ve studied for more than 25 years, and one to which I have devoted considerable work, including for the nonprofit 1in6 - as a founding board member, long-time adviser and main writer for the website.
on this page. Boys and men can be sexually used or abused, and it has nothing to do with how masculine they are. If a boy liked the attention he was getting, or got sexually aroused during abuse, or even sometimes wanted the attention or sexual contact, this does not mean he wanted or liked being manipulated or abused, or that any part of what happened, in any way, was his responsibility or fault.
Sexual abuse of boys is common, underreported, under-recognized, and under-treated. Sexual abuse of girls has been widely studied, leading to awareness of the risk factors and prevalence. Unfortunately, there have been relatively fewer studies done on sexual abuse of boys, leading to inadequate knowledge about the facts related to this topic.
Sexual assault is in no way related to the sexual orientation of the perpetrator or the survivor, and a person’s sexual orientation cannot be caused by sexual abuse or assault. Some men and boys have questions about their sexuality after surviving an assault or abuse—and that’s understandable.